“One key to successful leadership is continuous personal change. Personal change is a reflection of our inner growth and empowerment.” — Robert E. Quinn
I came across this quote by Robert Quinn and it reminded me of a personal change that I’ve experienced over the last few years as a result of being coached and then becoming a coach. I’m sharing this story as it may help you too. This change came from a combination of focused effort and conscious choice. It relates to the contrast between ruminating and letting go. It is all about the power of freedom and finding inner peace.
Like many of us I suspect, I used to spend time ruminating…also known as the worry gene. Rather than looking back as part of the learning process, I would look back and worry about all sorts of things that I could not change no matter how much energy I put into it. Then one day a few years ago through my coach training, I did a values exercise that changed my view and opened my eyes to a few things. For one, I realized that I value freedom. Freedom has different meaning for each of us but for me it means having inner peace. Yet, I was worrying. About what I said, what I did, what I didn’t do or say. What happens in this situation is that you end up living in the past in many respects. And when we live in the past, we miss out on such awesome things about the present. Through coaching, I learned to live and breathe in the present. This has created space in my life and in my head. What a true gift.
Now, I’m not saying that I never worry about anything anymore. I do. And I do because I care. I care deeply about people. I don’t however, give as much energy to worrying than it deserves. You see, I think worrying is overrated. I give my energy to where I live and breathe which is in the present. I have learned that I can still care about what truly matters and live in the present. My husband and I have put into practice a new way to think and to live and it’s really working for us. We have truly learned to “let go” and it is wonderful. It is absolutely empowering in fact. The past is used to learn from and that is all. You want to talk about freedom? This is freedom. Not only is it freedom but it is living according to our values and with personal integrity.
This is just one example of how we can change and grow while remaining true to ourselves. Sometimes we need someone on the outside to help us look inside. This is the value of great coaching. Coaching provides us with the support to define and achieve our goals of personal change.
Wishing you a peaceful day. Glo
(C) 2011 – True Bliss Coach Gloria Higdon